What is Self-Esteem?
Self Esteem can be defined as simply as having confidence in one’s owns abilities. It’s about believing in yourself and and being able to evaluate your own self-worth. In other words or in simpler words self esteem is how much you appreciate yourself and like yourself.
If you’d like to evaluate your own self-esteem, read till the end and solve the self-evaluation quiz at the end of this article.
Importance of Self-Esteem.
Any and every decision you make is directly or indirectly influenced by your self-esteem. It plays a very important role in self-motivation and success. A person who has a good self-esteem is more likely to understand his strengths, weaknesses and abilities and hence make use of different opportunities based on them.
People with high self-esteem are those who are motivated to constantly work hard towards achieving their goals. On the other hand, people who have low self-esteem don’t regard themselves worthy of seizing opportunities and achieving goals. They might have a hard time gathering confidence and courage.
Self esteem can be the difference between success and failure. It affects how you think and act, your confidence and happiness. If you don’t value yourself then don’t expect others to value you.
A person having high self-esteem thinks well of himself and is confident in his actions.They appreciate themselves and other people.They enjoy growing as a person and finding fulfillment and meaning in their lives.They are able to dig deep within themselves and be creative.They make their own decisions and conform to what others tell them to be and do only when they agree.They see the world in realistic terms, accepting other people the way they are.
Signs of Good Self-Esteem:
- Having confidence in yourself and your actions.
- Having a positive attitude and positive outlook in every situation.
- Taking responsibility of your life.
- Not letting small negatives affect your overall perspective. (Avoiding Pessimism)
- Being honest and valuing honesty in self and others. Dishonesty and self-esteem are like oil and water.
- Ability to express your needs and feelings effectively.
- Being able to say no whenever necessary.
Low self-esteem is the lack or absence of self esteem. People with low self-esteem always feel awkward, left-out, lack confidence and are pessimistic. Having low self esteem can greatly hinder your chances of success and achieving goals. In fact, people with low self esteem often lack goals and monotonous with their life.
Signs of Low Self-Esteem:
- Lacking confidence in yourself.
- Having negative outlook and negative attitude towards every situation.
- Focusing on your weakness and not your strengths.
- Unaccepting of criticism as well as positive positive feedback.
- Placing others in front of yourself and your needs.
- Fearing Failure.
- Inability to express yourself, your thoughts and your needs.
Improving your self-esteem:
Here are a few tips to help for you to work on in order to improve your self-esteem.
- Be nice to yourself.
Don’t go too hard on yourself, reward yourself for every good thing you do and keep telling yourself that you can do it.
- Stay Positive.
Think positively and surround yourself with positive people. Having a positive outlook will greatly impact your decision making and will help you achieve more.
- Eat healthy and Exercise often.
Choosing foods that are more nutritious and lower in sugar and fat can boost your energy, cut down on sugar crashes, and improve your overall health.
- Don’t Compare.
Do not compare yourself with others. Remember that no one is perfect. Comparing yourself to others will only lead to depressing thoughts which you don’t need.
- Focus on what you can change.
Focus on things that are under your influences. Make a list of your concerns and try to focus on only those which you can do something about. If you can’t control it, forget it.
Like all things in life too much of anything is bad. Having too much self-esteem is also an issue. It makes you arrogant and boastful. It results in over confidence and makes you egoistic and will always result in downfall and failure.
Now you must be wondering, how much is too much? Here’s a way to identify that.
ASSESS YOUR SELF-ESTEEM:
Before you can determine what changes to make in your life, it’s a good idea to get a better sense of how you see yourself at this time. Answer each question as honestly as you can. Rate yourself on each question, using the following numbering system:
- Almost Always — 4 points.
- Often — 3 points.
- Seldom — 2 points .
- Almost Never — 1 point.
______ I feel good about my personality.
______ I am pleased with my appearance.
______ I feel confident about my abilities.
______ On the whole, I am satisfied with myself.
______ When I make a mistake, I learn from it and move on.
______ I feel as smart as others.
______ I find it easy to admit when I don’t understand something.
______ I openly express my opinions to others.
______ Overall, I believe I am successful in life.
______ I think about myself with positive and encouraging thoughts.
If you scored between 10 and 19 points, your self-esteem is very low, and you don’t respect yourself or have much regard for yourself. If you scored between 20 and 29 points, you are beginning to feel capable in meeting life’s everyday challenges, but you still hold back, unsure that you can be successful in different aspects of your life.If you scored between 30 and 40 points, you are well on your way to developing high self-esteem. You feel comfortable with yourself and have confidence in your ability to set and reach goals. You are still growing and can reach an even higher level of self-esteem.